I was reading something recently and it said that we only have 18 summers with our children as children, young people. It really hit home with me just how short a time we have with them as children. 18 short years …
I am determined to make the most of my time with my boys. I have been lucky to have worked part time since my eldest was a baby (with just 8 months full time at one stage). I have absolutely no regrets. I could have worked full time and gone for more promotions. If I had we would have had more money to spend on the house, on better cars and more foreign holidays but what I hope my children remember was that I was there a lot for them, that I was at every sports day, Christmas concert, Nativity Play etc. They always say they like it that I can leave them to school and am here after school. When my eldest was born I really wanted to stay at home and was quite jealous of the stay-at-home mums but we needed another wage so part time it was. That was the right thing for me and my family and is absolutely not a criticism of those mothers who work full time. I have many friends and family members who work full time. I have followed my heart and that is what has worked for us.
I hope that the boys have wonderful childhood memories like I have of my childhood. It is our role as parents to give them the childhood they deserve. I see lots of quotes online about motherhood and there is so much pressure on mothers to be ‘perfect’. There is so much criticism of mothers on social media and I find it quite disgusting how a seemingly innocent comment can attract such nastiness and hatred. We can only do our best and follow our hearts.
My house is loud and messy.
That’s OK, because someday it will be quiet, spotless and lonely.